Life sucks the courage out of us. Day by day, we’re disappointed, criticized, rejected, abandoned, postponed and distracted. Things we planned to finish remain unfinished. People don’t do what they say, or they do the…

There have never been two politicians more different than Ronald Reagan and Thomas Phillip “Tip” O’Neill. Reagan was incredibly conservative . . . O’Neill, a staunch liberal. Reagan, a California Republican. O’Neill, a northeastern Democrat….

On Thursday night, I walked into a room with 8 total strangers. New mentees ‘grouped up’ by my church . . . future leaders who’ll grow in community this year. Some will scatter when it’s…

Old people think they’ve seen it all. But if you keep looking, you can keep learning. Through a men’s group I’m a part of, I’ve learned that people, especially men, can avoid having to open…

I’ve been going on and on about the value of community. About being vulnerable with trusted friends. About developing intimate friendships and ‘doing life’ with other guys.  About how rich it can be when a…

In my last post, I talked about confession – the idea of telling on yourself. Almost everyone agrees that coming out with your screwups is huge and healthy. The Catholic Church encourages anonymous confessions of…

“Tattletale, tattletale, hang your britches on a nail,” we chanted at whoever ran and told on us. No one liked being ratted out, whether it was for throwing rocks or stealing M&Ms. It took guts…

Wes Yoder’s book Bond of Brothers is one of the best books for men on community. I mean, such a great title, who could resist? You can check out the book by clicking here. Here’s a…

When we last left our story, a guy was pedaling toward his high school girlfriend’s house as hard as he could. Hurt by his wife, he’s about to mess up big time. He’s given himself…

So a guy goes to his high school reunion and they pass out a directory with every classmates’ address and phone number. There’s the address of Arlene, his high school sweetheart (she was the homecoming…