story

The Power of Story

“Tell me a fact and I will learn. Tell me a truth and I will believe. But tell me a story and it will live in my heart forever.” – Native American Proverb I’ve had quite a few speaking opportunities lately. I take each one seriously. If someone trusts me with their microphone, I want…

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confession

“I Ain’t Confessin’ Nuthin’”

Nowadays, we talk about transparency. But for centuries, it was called confession. It’s the idea of telling another Jesus-follower your failures and misdeeds. Confessing sin to one another was a huge part of the early church and perhaps a big part of its profound power and influence. Over the years, public confession was replaced by…

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Stop Tinkering . . . Just Do Something

Did you know that there’s been a dramatic shift in the age when most young adults complete all the major transitions into adulthood? We’re talking about leaving home, finishing school, becoming financially independent, getting married and having a child. Back in 1960, 77% of women and 65% of men had completed all these transitions by…

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Mat Carriers and Roof Crashers

Several weekends ago, I had the privilege of spending the weekend with about 100 men from Southbrook Church in Charlotte, NC. And this was no ordinary weekend . . . it was one of those rare 70 degree January weekends when I know there were tee times to be had and many other outdoor activities…

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marriage

The Marriage Roundabout

My counselor friend Kathy is one of the smartest people I know. Not just book smart, she’s street smart too. I was telling her how every married couple I know struggles with sex, money or extended family (parents, in-laws, siblings, cousins, etc.) She said those were manifestations of a problem but not the real problem.…

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millennials

Leading Millennials

There’s a lot of days when I feel like a dinosaur, especially in a world increasingly populated with millennials. So when I saw there was a breakout sessions on leading millennials at last year’s Catalyst Conference, I couldn’t say no. Brad Lomenick, author of The Catalyst Leader and H3 Leadership shared the following principles which…

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past

A Crucified Man Can Only Face Forward

Everybody has a past. Things we would do different if given the chance. Screw-ups that hurt ourselves and others. We bear the wounds of parents who didn’t love us well, teachers who vilified us, coaches who belittled us, bosses who disrespected us, customers who fired us, and friends who betrayed us. The past can be…

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humility

Unclaimed Grace

When I was 23 years old, I got my first promotion with AT&T, was put over the business office in Greenville, South Carolina and given responsibility for managing Betty, Mary and Janie. A few months into it, I was called into my boss’ office on a Monday morning for what seemed to be an important…

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listening

The Three Levels of Listening

Years ago, my company at the time engaged a consultant to teach us all to be better listeners. He taught us three levels of listening . . . attending, content, and feeling. I understand there are even more, but these three have helped me immensely, even to this day. Let me explain . . . Attending –…

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question

The Ultimate Question

Imagine for a moment you were faced with a life and death question. Imagine if your answer determined what your current and future life would be like? Well, there is such a question. It was first posed by Jesus to Peter (recorded by Mark in Chapter 8, verse 28). He asks . . . “Who…

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