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The Total Surrender Contract

I get a little nervous when I hear the preacher say “Surrender your life to Jesus.” I don’t remember Jesus using those words. I thought He talked about giving us “life to the full.” What’s this surrender thing about? When I think about surrendering, I see a scene at the end of a war movie.…

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Three Phases in the Life of an Organization

Years ago, I read a book that said a start-up venture has three phases . . . Wander around until you find something. Grow it as fast and as profitably as you can. Change the game. I’ve never forgotten it. And I could bore you to tears with examples. The trick is 1) to know…

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Born Stoic, Die Epicurean

Historian Will Durant is credited with originating the platitude, ‘born stoic, die epicurean.’ He was speaking of nations, but I believe it applies to organizations and individuals as well. We start out fending for ourselves. We scratch and scrape, wasting little and stretching every dollar and minute for all we can get out of it.…

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What the Best Negotiators Do

So, there’s the dad who comes home from work and is greeted by two whiny kids. “Daddy, I need this orange for my school project and Danny won’t let me have it!” Dad looks at Danny “But I need this orange for my science homework” he screams. Dad knows exactly what to do. He grabs…

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Raw Spots

When you’re saying something and you feel a little twinge of “I shouldn’t be saying this” and then you look at your wife and the temperature has dropped 20 degrees and the wind’s now coming from the north . . . you’ve hit a raw spot. For years, I ignored it. I just kept talking.…

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Just Your Earth Suit

The other day, my wife and I counted 8 people whose deaths we’ve been close to in the last few years. Close family members and friends. Some sudden and tragic . . . some long, drawn out and excruciating. That’s not to mention my ‘near miss’ with a lung transplant. We’re wondering if maybe we’re…

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Antichrist? Seriously

“This is how you can recognize the Spirit of God: Every spirit that acknowledges that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, but every spirit that does not acknowledge Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you have heard is coming and even now is already…

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We Live for the Lord?

It’s not hard to find someone who is for the Georgia Bulldogs. Or for the Clemson Tigers. Americans are for America. We relish our identity as Americans when we celebrate our independence each July 4th. As husbands, we’re for our wives and our kids. When you’re for something, you identify with it, you advocate for…

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When is a Man a Real Man

Posting about marriage is a little like taking a midnight swim in the Okefenokee swamp. You might not get bit, but you probably will. Guys always leave comments on these post and, most of which center around control. When I read words like “so I should let my wife do whatever she wants?” I think…

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Fire Your Father

Last week, I was interviewed on the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast. During the interview, I mentioned firing my father. It brought a good laugh but I wanted to take the chance to further explain myself, especially since Father’s Day just passed. On Father’s Day, you probably celebrated your dad in some way. You gave him…

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