The Power of Self-Disclosure (Part II)
When we last left our story, a guy was pedaling toward his high school girlfriend’s house as hard as he could. Hurt by his wife, he’s about to mess up big time. He’s given himself…
The Power of Self-Permission (Part I)
So a guy goes to his high school reunion and they pass out a directory with every classmates’ address and phone number. There’s the address of Arlene, his high school sweetheart (she was the homecoming…
Where God Shows Himself
It hasn’t always been intentional, but I’ve stumbled into community with other guys the entire time I’ve been walking with God. One group…then another. No surprise I wasn’t in community when I ‘ran off the…
Activity, Proximity, or Intentionality
Grown men are lonely in our culture. Though surrounded by people, “most men lead lives of quiet desperation.” No guy really knows them and they don’t take the time or risk to really know other guys. We…
Biblical Bob
I don’t know anyone who is totally satisfied with their church. People who go to a large church want the warmth and connection of a smaller one. Others are trapped in smaller churches and hungry…
Friendship Grows in the Darkness
The old saying goes “to have a friend, you have to be one.” I don’t think so. To me that describes a business deal. That’s a trade, not a friendship. Haven’t you been friends with…
Don’t Hold Me Accountable…Hold Me Close
Bob Goff said that. I wish I had. Who is close enough to you to know when you’re off the rails? Who can you call for advice with the ‘stickiest’ of questions? Which of your…
The “God life” and EXCLUSIVITY
Some time back, I read where someone asked Carl Sandburg (the famous North Carolina poet whose words were like a magnifying glass to human emotion) what was his least favorite word. His answer? The word…
Make a ‘people plan’
The best way to predict future behavior is past behavior. The definition of insanity is to repeat the same behavior and expect a different result. You can’t talk your way out of what you behave your…
Do you have any real friends?
(this post was co-written with Pete Loescher, a veteran mentor and dear friend) “The tragedy at my father’s funeral was not that I had to help carry the casket. It was that I had to…
