Stronger Closer Together

Attending a seeker church as I do, the constant question is “Don’t we need to go deeper?” “Are we ‘fast food church,’ looking to make following Jesus quick-serve . . .  high calorie, low cost, low value?” “Are people going to become deeply rooted in Jesus through our church?” So, recently I turned to Scripture…

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A Faith of Your Own

I’ve had a burr in my saddle for a while. I feel it every time a church service ends with an altar call . . . when folks are asked to become Christians. The words flow with passion . . . “Give your life to Jesus.” “Get saved today.” “Surrender to Christ.” What do these…

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The Death of Delayed Gratification

As a culture, we’re killing the idea of suffering now for the good stuff later. We want the new car and the newest, coolest stuff, but we don’t want to save for them. We want them now. The result? Car loans, credit card payments, and oppressive debt. We want happiness, and we want it now.…

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Two Seasons of Life Ahead

When we read stories about mentoring, we usually visualize an older person meeting with younger one. But how much older? For years, we’ve been saying the best ‘spread’ between mentor and mentee is two seasons of life but we’ve never really explained it. Here’s a rough approximation . . . Two seasons of life ahead…

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P.S.D. Husbands

Brad Cooper is a pastor at NewSpring Church and a graduate of my most recent Radical Mentoring group. A couple of weeks ago, he delivered an awesome sermon on marriage, speaking specifically to husbands about the command found in Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for…

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I Just Want to Be Happy

How many times have you heard someone say, “But I just want to be happy!” Or even said it yourself? “I’d be happy if I could lose another 10 pounds, but I hate starving all the time!” “I love the people I work with, but I’m so unhappy with my job.” “I can’t stand this…

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Today’s post is courtesy of one of my closest friends and mentors, John Richie. John has a long successful career as a corporate executive. We’ve worked together twice. First when he served as COO of InterServ Services Corporation and later when he was CEO of Tax Partners LLC. I regularly quote John Richie, and I…

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Waiting vs. Procrastinating

Since 2000, over 140 guys have been ‘radically mentored’ around my dining room table. Around the world, another 5,000 guys have had a similar experience. Some mentor poured his cup into their cup. And those guys made a covenant commitment to pour their cups into some younger guys’ cups . . . when God lets them…

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Tackle the Tangles

My post last week, “What’s Unpacked Sometimes Unravels,” was the most unnatural thing I’ve ever written. I know it was wise, but so unlike me. I struggle to leave anything alone; I’m the world’s worst at leaving things unpacked. I want to set it straight and get it over with, so I can move on…

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5 Reasons a Man Needs a Mentor

Courage – Most of the time, men know the right things to do. Call it conscience, call it intuition, call it whatever . . . more often than not our challenge isn’t knowing what to do as it is mustering the courage to do it and live with the consequences. Which is why a man…

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