Intentionality and the “Lyle” syndrome
Our son had the best dog that ever lapped water from the face of the earth. His name was Lyle, a black lab with more sense and sensitivity than you can imagine. You’re having a…
Selfish Interest
“The one human quality you can always depend on is selfish interest.” The first time I heard that I bristled. “Wow, what a nasty outlook on people. Are we really that bad?” Then the real…
Community – Yes … Accountability – No
I’m reading a cool book called So You Don’t Want to Go to Church Anymore by Wayne Jacobsen and Dave Coleman. Jake, the book’s main character, is an associate pastor in a church. He has…
Decision Making….thinking about it
“All decisions, in the moment, from the perspective of the decision maker, are between the greater of two goods or the lesser of two evils. There are no ‘right or wrong’ decisions.” When I heard…
The #1 reason a man needs a mentor – COURAGE
Most of the time, men know the right things to do. Some believe we’re born with an internal “compass” that points us toward right decisions. Call it conscience, call it intuition, call it whatever….more often…
Reason #2 a man needs a mentor – Wisdom
There are a ton of smart people out there. Google can lead you to the answer to just about any informational question you have. But where do you find wisdom and get access to it?…
Reason #3 a man needs a mentor – Objectivity
We men get so intense, so proud, so focused, so “caught up” in what we’re doing, we lose sight of the bigger picture. We’ll do things the same way, over and over and then be…
Reason #4 a man needs a mentor – His network
As we make our way through life, we collect people. We meet people from all kinds of industries, from all levels within the hierarchies of organizations, and people who perform all kinds of services. Not…
Reason # 5 a man needs a mentor – Loneliness
No matter how many golfing buddies, hunting buddies, or bowling buddies, when we get down to it, men are sort of lonely. Oh, we’re surrounded by people…people we work with, live with, go to church…
Curriculum helps us dodge community
Old people think they’ve seen it all. But if you keep looking, you can keep learning. Through a men’s group I’m a part of, I’ve learned that people, especially men, can avoid having to open…
