Who’s Got the Monkey?
Maybe it was being 24 years old and thinking about an MBA. Maybe it was because I wanted all the ‘monkeys’ I could get to prove myself and get ahead. But when I read the…
Shame, Blame and Other Games (Part III)
Understand your desire to avoid shame and you’ll start to see where blame comes in. Where pride gets its start. When Adam screwed up in the garden, what did he do? He ran and hid….
Here’s My Heart
On Friday morning, I did what I love to do. I got up before sunrise, went down to the beach, plugged in my headphones and watched the sky get continually lighter as I started singing my favorite David…
Shame ON Me (Part II)
Guilt says “I did something bad.” Shame says “I am something bad.” This kind of message is devastating to a boy and it makes for a messed-up man later on. A few low points from…
Shame IN Me (Part I)
I asked my counselor friend why she was so good at getting men to open up and make progress. “I avoid shame,” she said. It seems men have this huge ‘hole in their souls,’ called…
Mad, Sad or Glad
Few things in life matter more than the emotional connection between a kid and his dad. It has to start early and be refreshed often. If Dad isn’t there to talk about little things with…
It’s Not About the Nail
When someone sent me this video, I lit up. It totally shows how we (men) get hung up with ‘content’ and drive right by ‘feelings’. I showed it to the guys in my mentoring group…
7 Things I’ve Learned about Death & Dying
Thoughts on ‘trans-portation’ (the end of life here and the beginning of life in heaven…there is no ‘death’ for Jesus’ brothers and sisters). 1. People want to be ‘walked home’ – just like on a…
Think With Your Head, Not With Your Heart
A young friend sends me an email draft. He’s about to ‘blow the head off’ an important person in his business life. He’s frustrated . . . even justified to ‘tell it like it is.’…
Commerce Over Charity
Not too long ago, our T.V. screens flashed images of bloated-bellied African children. Emotion-filled voices pleaded for donations to save them from starvation. Either those ads stopped working or the situation has improved. Probably a…
