When we read stories about mentoring, we usually visualize an older person meeting with a younger one. But how much older?
We’ve always said that the best spread between mentor and mentee is at least two seasons of life. Think of it like this: two seasons of life ahead of …
- a high schooler is a young single person.
- a college kid is a young married without kids.
- a young single person is a young married with small kids.
- a newly married person without kids is someone married with teenagers.
- a young married with small kids is a married person with college-age kids.
- a person with teenagers is an empty-nester
This isn’t precise or universal, but you get the idea. There are old souls in younger bodies and immature souls in older bodies. And, of course, different circumstances lead us to different relationships and situations. The real takeaway is that we respect people who have been where we’re going. They have walked the path, know which roots and rocks tripped them up, and are humbly willing to share their experiences.
But just because someone is a few seasons of life behind you, that doesn’t mean they are primed to learn and grow from a mentoring group experience. There are other essential things to look for in potential mentees. For example, Radical Mentoring founder Regi Campbell always said he looked for guys who were hungry. Many churches are looking for mentees who can step up as potential leaders in their various ministries.
It may be a little different for every mentor, but there are some tell-tale signs to look for. The resources below will help you identify men potential mentees willing to take direct feedback and eager to grow as Jesus-followers.
Not everyone is in a season where they will benefit from a mentoring group or where they are ready to make the commitment necessary to learn and grow. In this article, RM founder Regi Campbell lays out the six qualities he looked for in the men he wanted to mentor.
In this podcast episode, Carey Niewhof interviews Matt Keller about teachability. They discuss why teachability is so essential and unpack five roadblocks to it. Teachability is a critical trait to look for in mentees, so you won’t want to miss this conversation.
In the blog post, RM President Kevin Harris explains the importance of having men apply to be part of a mentoring group. This allows you to understand where they are at in their spiritual walks, and it communicates to them the importance of what they’re stepping into.
Demonstrating a desire to learn by being curious and asking questions is a key sign that someone is ready to grow. In this blog post, author Morgan Snyder reminds us why asking questions is crucial, especially today when it’s easy to hide behind an abundance of answers.
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Small group mentoring can help you engage your men, build your core group of leaders, and transform your church. Our free resources equip you with all the tools you need to launch a sustainable mentoring program.