The Mentoring Manifesto, Vol. 61: Who Should You Mentor?
When we read stories about mentoring, we usually visualize an older person meeting with a younger one. But how much older?
We’ve always said that the best spread between mentor and mentee is at least two seasons of life. Think of it like this: two seasons of life ahead of …
- a high schooler is a young single person.
- a college kid is a young married without kids.
- a young single person is a young married with small kids.
- a newly married person without kids is someone married with teenagers.
- a young married with small kids is a married person with college-age kids.
- a person with teenagers is an empty-nester
This isn’t precise or universal, but you get the idea. There are old souls in younger bodies and immature souls in older bodies. And, of course, different circumstances lead us to different relationships and situations. The real takeaway is that we respect people who have been where we’re going. They have walked the path, know which roots and rocks tripped them up, and are humbly willing to share their experiences.
But just because someone is a few seasons of life behind you, that doesn’t mean they are primed to learn and grow from a mentoring group experience. There are other essential things to look for in potential mentees. For example, Radical Mentoring founder Regi Campbell always said he looked for guys who were hungry. Many churches are looking for mentees who can step up as potential leaders in their various ministries.
It may be a little different for every mentor, but there are some tell-tale signs to look for. The resources below will help you identify men potential mentees willing to take direct feedback and eager to grow as Jesus-followers.
SIX QUALITIES OF A GOOD MENTEE
CNLP 072: MATT KELLER ON THE KEY TO EVERYTHING
WHY INVITE MEN TO APPLY TO A MENTORING GROUP
WHAT ARE YOUR QUESTIONS? WHO ARE YOU ASKING?
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