Isn’t it weird how we lie? How we spin stories to make them represent the people we wish we were instead of who we are? Or sit quietly and let an untruth be perpetuated when we know it’s a lie? And we’ll do it with people we’ve known for years as quick as with total strangers.
Jeremiah 27 tells us that our hearts are deceptive and incurably so, but it just seems ridiculous that we struggle with telling the simple truth. Often, the lie is not overt….it’s not telling something that isn’t true, it’s failing to correct something that’s not true or accurate; failing to lean into a lie previously told by you or someone else.
My theory is that we have multiple versions of ourselves stored away in our minds. The “athlete” version of me once ran a mile in less than 6 minutes when he was in high school. Never happened. The “musician” version of me played in a band that opened for Marvin Gaye back in the 60’s. The story gets told and retold. Fantasy.
We need these versions of ourselves so we’ll measure up…so we’ll be acceptable, admired, and respected.
But reality is harsh. Most people hear these stories and know they’re lies. How? Because they have their own drawer full of stories they tell about themselves…for the same reasons….so they’ll be accepted. admired. respected. well-thought-of.
Here’s the real kicker. Maintaining all those fantasies just makes us feel worse about ourselves, not better. It’s called “living a lie”.
As believers, God has already found us totally acceptable (through Christ) WITHOUT all that stuff. Grabbing hold of that and believing it in the fabric of your being will change your life.
Next time you find yourself on the cusp of bending the truth, perpetuating a deception from the past, or just about to say something that isn’t true, don’t. Decide to speak truth instead. Remember that God has your back.
Let’s go one step further. Let’s identify one “little white lie” we’ve told and/or perpetuated and straighten it out. Shine the light of God’s grace and forgiveness voluntarily into a dark corner of your life and clean that one thing out once and for all. This could be the start of something very cool.
Our faith gives us the guts to tell the truth to ourselves and others….we can trust God with outcomes.
Question: Are you willing to share one of your “little white lies” and what happened when you came clean?
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I think satan loves keeping us in the dark on this one. Like you said, not in the overt or openly unbelievable versions of self, but in the small, slightly-twisted, half-truths. The problem with half-truths is that even we sometimes (over the years) believe them. If satan can convince us to believe a half-truth about our identity–who we are and what we stand for–his battle’s all but won. Because one day those truths will be laid naked in the sunlight… and if we’ve tricked ourselves into trusting in that false identity, we will lose all sense of ourselves. That’s his end game. Calling ourselves out and shining the light voluntarily as you put it, takes away his power while simultaneously letting God do His work in our heart and lives–double bonus.
I once owned a horse (false) and a four-story house (false) and graduated 13th in my class (16th… the grades were finalized after we walked at graduation).
…way to go! Couldn’t agree more with your post.