Leading mentoring groups and engaging with others who mentor gives me the chance to hear many people’s stories. A few common threads emerge, but one of the most consistent is the presence of a father wound.
Most of us have been wounded in one way or another. It’s even true for those with “perfect” dads, whose wound can be an overwhelming desire to measure up. Whatever the source, abuse, neglect, or just plain busyness, father wounds are real, as are their effects: depression, suicide, divorce, dropout, etc.
But here’s the deal, we have the power to stop the transfer of that wound to the next generation. Even if your kids are gone, when you mentor those coming up behind you, you have the influence to empower them to stop it.
The work of fatherhood is too important to ignore, to outsource to Mom, or Coach, or even a youth pastor. Hearing all these stories reminds me of what a privilege it is to be a dad and the influence my words and actions have on how my sons view themselves and how they view their Heavenly Father.
Our sons and daughters need us now more than ever. They all deeply want to know their fathers and want to be known by them. If you have kids at home or mentor those who do, don’t miss this opportunity to influence and shape who they are becoming. The resources below will help you and your mentees speak into your kids’ lives.
“Time is measured in minutes but life is measured in moments.” In this episode of the dadAWESOME podcast, pastor Mark Batterson shares why dads must create sacred moments and reference points with your kids, including some helpful ways to do so.
As husbands, fathers, and leaders, too often, “normal” defines us more than we’re defining it. In this blog post, RM founder Regi Campbell encourages us to sit down with our wives and define normal for our families. And then talk to our kids about what we want for them and what they want for themselves.
Every question eventually leads back to the heart of God. Author Morgan Snyder explores why cultivating a culture of asking questions, encouraging questions, and valuing questions both in yourself and in your kids is one of the best things you can do as a dad.
In this piece, leadership expert Tim Elmore dives deep on three things many of us do wrong in leading our kids. He covers why we do these things, why they are problems, and then provides nine ideas to help us better prepare our kids for the world.
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