The Mentoring Manifesto, Vol. 29: Helping Mentees Make Good Decisions
According to research, the average adult makes 35,000 decisions each day (most of which we make in isolation). What we eat, what we wear, what we believe, what we buy…whether or not we keep reading this email. It’s easy to see how the decisions add up.
Not all of the decisions we make are hard, but many are. As Andy Stanley describes in his book When Work and Family Collide, we can never meet everyone’s expectations, we have to “cheat” somewhere, disappoint someone, shortchange something.
Your mentees most likely struggle with this. They’re still unwrapping their priorities and developing their decision-making paradigms. This is where you, as the mentor, come in.
As you look back on your life, you can probably pinpoint the decisions that led you astray and the ones that resulted in triumph. Tell them about it…what you learned, and what you’d do differently.
And let them know how you make decisions now. What steps do you take to ensure you make a wise choice? Do you ask for a second opinion? Do you do hours of research? Do you filter our decisions through a personal mission statement? Where is God in the process?
Transparency about your decision-making process and your decision-making history is a major value add to their lives. Don’t hold back. Below are a few resources to help as you tackle decision-making in your mentoring group.
CNLP 389: ANDY STANLEY ON HOW HE MAKES DECISIONS
THE STRIKING HOUR
WHAT IS YOUR DECISION-MAKING STYLE? ASSESSMENT
MENTOR PREP VIDEO: DECISION-MAKING
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