According to research, the average adult makes 35,000 decisions each day (most of which we make in isolation). What we eat, what we wear, what we believe, what we buy…whether or not we keep reading this email. It’s easy to see how the decisions add up.
Not all of the decisions we make are hard, but many are. As Andy Stanley describes in his book When Work and Family Collide, we can never meet everyone’s expectations, we have to “cheat” somewhere, disappoint someone, shortchange something.
Your mentees most likely struggle with this. They’re still unwrapping their priorities and developing their decision-making paradigms. This is where you, as the mentor, come in.
As you look back on your life, you can probably pinpoint the decisions that led you astray and the ones that resulted in triumph. Tell them about it…what you learned, and what you’d do differently.
And let them know how you make decisions now. What steps do you take to ensure you make a wise choice? Do you ask for a second opinion? Do you do hours of research? Do you filter our decisions through a personal mission statement? Where is God in the process?
Transparency about your decision-making process and your decision-making history is a major value add to their lives. Don’t hold back. Below are a few resources to help as you tackle decision-making in your mentoring group.
On this podcast, two of our favorite leaders discuss decision-making, including the decision-making process and 5 questions to help you make better decisions and have fewer regrets. A great listen to hone your decision-making or to pass along to your mentees.
“The striking hour passes and with it passes the opportunity to act…never to return.” In this post, Atlanta-area mentor John Richie shares 3 stages of decision-making and how specific events in his life led him to a universal principle about making timely decisions. It’s a helpful read for anyone.
To accompany his book, Yes or No, Jeff Shinabarger created this test to help you discover your decision-making style. It’s a useful tool as you discuss decision-making with your mentees and encourage them to develop their own decision-making process.
In this mentor prep video, Radical Mentoring founder Regi Campbell talks about the reality your mentees are facing when it comes to decision-making and how you, as the mentor, can help them make wise decisions during and even after your mentoring season.
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