We make a massive deal about everyone telling their story in mentoring groups. It’s arguably the critical piece that will determine where your group goes.
Sharing our stories breaks down the walls of the performance trap and opens the door to vulnerability. Sharing our stories teaches us empathy and builds the bridge to community. And authentic community is the cornerstone of a Radical Mentoring group.
There are a couple of stories you’ll hear from your mentees . . . their career story, their family story, their faith story. All of them matter (particularly the last one), but what you really want to hear is their life story. You want to hear their heart…what matters to them and why, their most proud moments, and their most forming failures.
Once you know where everyone has been and where they are now, you can work together during the season to unpack where each of your stories is going, and define the stories you want your lives to tell when you’re old and gray.
As the mentor, it’s your job to model this by going first. Tell them your life story. And since you’re closer than they are to being old and gray (if you aren’t already there!), paint a picture of what life can be like when it’s rooted in God’s love and grace. The resources below will help you tell your story and equip your mentees to tell theirs.
The Paterson Center helps people and organizations uncover their purpose. They have great resources on diving deep into our stories, including this video on how understanding the settings of our story can help us discern what we’re made from and what we’re made for.
In this series of four 20-minute podcasts, therapist Dan Allender explores questions he hears from people who are hesitant about sharing their stories. These episodes will make you a better storyteller and a better story listener who can draw out the impact of someone’s story.
In this Mentor Training video, Radical Mentoring founder Regi Campbell unpacks the elements that should be included when sharing your faith story . . . where you started, what happened along the way, and where you are now. He reminds us that the most important part is being honest and telling it like it is.
In this article, men’s ministry leader Pablo Ceron challenges us to consider how we want to be remembered and what kind of legacy we want to leave. It’s an important question to ask ourselves. It can also be a galvanizing one to ask your mentees after they’ve vulnerably shared their stories and their pasts.
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