Where Are You…Really?
“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.” – Nido Qubein Years ago, my company hired a consultant to help us get better at what we did. He…
Why Marriage…
We’ll spend eternity learning the ‘why’ behind stuff here on earth. Unlimited time with an all-knowing God, curious people like me would wear Him out, if He could be worn out….which He can’t. Like so…
A Wife’s ‘Expectations’ Story
Expectations are the anathema of marriage. Men (and women) come into marriage expecting perfection which, simply stated, is for the other person to do and say exactly what we want them to, when we want them to. Whether we…
It’s Not About the Nail
When someone sent me this video, I lit up. It totally shows how we (men) get hung up with ‘content’ and drive right by ‘feelings’. I showed it to the guys in my mentoring group…
You Hurt My…Ego!
“You hurt my feelings” is really hard for a man to say. It’s not manly to talk about your feelings or to whine about your sniffly wounded heart! Much more manly to pout. That’s what…
Marriage Problems Don’t Exist
They are personal problems, revealed in the ‘white-hot heat’ of marriage. If you take away the veil of ‘marriage problems’ and look deeper, you’ll see ‘action’-‘response’ at work, over and over. One person says or…
Don’t Take It Personal
I’m an expert on arguments. I’ve got a lot of experience. My brother-in-law casts me with “Often wrong, but never in doubt,” and “My way or the highway.” I confess, I can be pretty committed…
The Happy Wife Pledge
I used to think marriage hinged on picking the right woman. Choose well and you’ll have it made. Then I grew up some and decided it was a 50-50 deal. If my wife and I…
The Marriage Cage
Marriage is easy when you’re feeling the love. But when you aren’t, marriage feels like a cage: “I’m trapped in here with this woman I don’t love and who doesn’t love me. I can’t get…
You Have To Give It Up For Him To Give It Back
Maybe the most amazing thing about my life since I surrendered to Christ is how so many of the things I wanted have come my way. But in almost every case, it’s been a process….
