Two Seasons of Life Ahead

Two Seasons of Life Ahead

Posted by Regi Campbell on April 9, 2018

When we read stories about mentoring, we usually visualize an older person meeting with younger one. But how much older?

For years, we’ve been saying the best ‘spread’ between mentor and mentee is two seasons of life but we’ve never really explained it. Here’s a rough approximation . . .

  • Two seasons of life ahead of a grade school kid is a high schooler.
  • Two seasons of life ahead of a high schooler is a young single person.
  • Two seasons of life ahead of a college kid is young married without kids.
  • Two seasons of life ahead of a young single person is a young married with small kids.
  • Two seasons of life ahead of a person who is newly married but still without kids is someone who is married and has teenagers.
  • Two seasons of life ahead of a young married with small kids is a married person with kids in college.
  • Two seasons of life ahead of a person with teenagers is a person with kids out of college, but still single.
  • Two seasons of life ahead of a person who is married and has college-age kids is an ‘empty-nester’ who is married and has married kids.

Get the picture?

This isn’t precise nor is it universal. There are old souls in younger bodies and immature souls in older bodies. But you get the gist of it. We respect people who have been where we’re going. That have walked the path, know which roots and rocks tripped them up, and are humbly willing to share their experiences . . . especially those where they wish they could get a ‘do over.’

Having a season of life sandwiched between their experience and mentoring others gives mentors time to process and objectively assess what they did right and what they didn’t. It’s still fresh enough to be meaningful but not so fresh that they’re emotional or defensive.

So, if you think you’re ready to mentor, take a few minutes and think through your seasons of life. Where are you now? What season of life or age frame did you come through before the one you’re in now? What was the one before that? Keep thinking back through those seasons, one by one, until you get back to one where you think, “Hey, now I know something about that one!” The age frame where you know the questions (and some of the answers), that’s where you’re going to feel confident as a mentor. And it’s probably where you should start.

Scripture: Wisdom is with aged men, with long life is understanding. (Job 12:12)

Mentor Tip: When the guys in your group are in the same season of life, they’re seeking answers to the same questions. When you’re a couple of seasons ahead, you’re more likely to have some answers.

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Responses (2)

Todd Ringness
Todd Ringness Posted: April 9, 2018, 1:29 pm

I have been so blessed by your ministry, Regi! Thank you for your faithfulness, brother. A few months ago I was approached by a man in our church who was in search of a mentor. He is a few years older than me and he and his wife have three children (two at home and one away.) We both have known the Lord for many years and both have previously been missionaries and have musical talents as well. I am in a healthy 18+ years marriage, without children. He felt God led him to ask me about mentoring him. So I said yes! And it’s been awesome ever since, God often blesses me with wisdom for him and we talk mostly about marriage and relationship issues. I continue to have the pleasure of witnessing God’s powerful work in this man’s life as we meet together every other week for about 90 minutes at the local coffee shop; I am often blessed with his unique and creative perspective on his pursuit of Christ in his life. I see that you leave room for alternatives and exceptions in recommended mentor relationships, so I just wanted to add that shared similar interests and past and present experiences–as well as gift mixes and personality–can also form a rich mentoring foundation from which Father God can be glorified!

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