So if our destiny is our future course, what about ‘calling’ and how’s it different from  ‘destiny’? Destiny is something you wake up to. Calling is something you find. Back to the expressway analogy. Finding…

Until I read a great little book called The Cure I’d never used the word “destiny”. It sounded mystical, metaphorical and scary. Like getting on the Titanic for a second time. You’re going to die and you’re supposed…

Organizations of all types have flocked to part time employees. As a manager, they offer flexibility and lower cost, in part because they don’t typically get benefits. It works well for the part time employee…

Look behind almost anything ‘ungodly’ and you’ll find pride. Pride is the opposite of humility. It’s the enemy of vulnerability. Pride says “I’ve got this”. And pride is what sent Satan to hell. What? Yep….

Understand your desire to avoid shame and you’ll start to see where blame comes in. Where pride gets its start. When Adam screwed up in the garden, what did he do? He ran and hid….

Guilt says “I did something bad.” Shame says “I am something bad.” This kind of message is devastating to a boy and it makes for a messed-up man later on. A few low points from…

I asked my counselor friend why she was so good at getting men to open up and make progress. “I avoid shame,” she said. It seems men have this huge ‘hole in their souls,’ called…

I’ve picked up on a habit. I have it. You may have it too. You may think it’s dumb but it’s not. It’s called ‘self referencing’. When one ‘self references’, they take the topic of…

So we muster the courage to be vulnerable. We expose our stuff . . . our past, our weaknesses, our ugly parts. Our friends and family don’t kick us out. Maybe they even feel closer…

Our egos fuel us to contend with God. We get a little success and we start feeling pretty good about ourselves. We read our ‘press’ and believe it. Compliments, testimonials, thank you notes, recognition by…