empathy

Radical Empathy and the Second Question

The word ‘empathy’ brings a smile to the face of anyone in my family. It’s an inside joke. We all took the StrengthFinders test sometime back and shared the results with each other. Without calling names or confessing anything, let’s just say empathy is not found in abundance in our hard-charging tribe. Twice in the…

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We Knead to Laugh Sometimes

When you write books and blogs, you pay attention to words. Most of the time, I find myself trying to share serious stuff . . . something I’ve learned or think is profound. It’s easy to grow intense and forget how to look at the lighter side . . . how to enjoy the people…

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Death is a Step

Not long ago, I joined a host of people to pray for Lisa and Mark. Mark was in my Radical Mentoring group a few years back and Lisa is his wife. They have two young sons. She is battling recurrent cancer and it’s serious. I came home to find that my next-door neighbor has breast…

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Positive Disruption

Last week, I wrote about how we don’t often change unless we’re disrupted . . . unless something bad happens to upset our homeostasis. Sometimes, it works the other way. We’re ‘positively’ disrupted. We see someone who models a character trait we wish we had . . . so much so that we start trying…

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Disruption

People change very little unless they’re disrupted; unless something or someone shakes up their homeostasis. We may have ideas . . . even plans, but we rarely move until we’re stimulated. As my friend John says, “it’s not the light . . . it’s the heat that moves us!” One way disruption comes is when…

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Throwing Shade

The term ‘throwing shade’ has seeped into mainstream culture over the last 25 years. It means to “talk trash about a friend or acquaintance, to publicly denounce or disrespect.” For example, if I were to say in a terribly condescending voice, “Oh honey, I’m so glad you saved up to buy those glasses,” that’s blatant…

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Sunballousa

I think about Mary (Jesus’ mother) all the time. I picture her standing there, watching people bowing down and worshipping her baby. From kings to shepherds, they brought gifts and stared at her newborn. Scripture says she, “treasured these things in her heart.” Instead of “treasured,” other versions use the word “held” or “pondered.” The…

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The Curse of Criticism

“You need to control yourself!” “You’re screwing up!” “People in our family don’t do that!” All parents say stuff like this and it’s usually well-intended. We want our children and grandchildren to grow up to be good people. We also want our spouses to see ‘the error of their ways’ and our employees to do…

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The Old and New . . . Far and Near

There’s been a lot of talk lately about the Old Testament and the New Testament . . . the ‘old covenant’ and the ‘new covenant.’ This piece from Morning and Evening put it into a context I’d never thought about . . . “The dispensation of the old covenant was that of distance. When God…

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500

This is my 500th blog post on the Radical Mentoring blog (550th overall). Twice a week, we load up your inbox or your browser with five or six hundred words. The other day, someone said, “Regi, some of those devotions you send out are pretty good.” Smacked me in the mouth. A devotional was never…

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