Research shows that sexual integrity and pornography are major issues facing men today. One study showed men think about something sexual every 3 minutes or less. Another found that 80 percent of men used porn within the last week. And Christian men face the exact same challenges that other men face . . . sex is everywhere, the barriers to access have dropped, and the perceived consequences of sex outside of marriage are low, especially if it’s “just a few pictures on a computer screen.”
One of the common questions we get is from mentors, who ask – “how do I address these issues in my group?” And from mentees – “What do I need to do if I struggle here.”
On this page are a few key resources to help in the battle for your sexual integrity. It’s by no means exhaustive. And if you already know you need big-time help now . . . skip down to the bottom and reach out to friends at BraveHearts. They are pros when it comes to dealing with sexual integrity issues head-on. And then tell somebody you did that . . . because you can’t fight this battle alone.
Treating symptoms doesn’t solve root issues, but you can’t get better if you don’t stop. It’s possible to lock yourself down so porn is unavailable by installing a filtering software. There are many to choose from like X3Watch and Accountable2You. Even some free options out there.
If you want our recommendation, go with Covenant Eyes. They’ve long been a trusted and well-reviewed brand. Their software not only blocks sites but sends reports to whoever you choose as your accountability partner. We even like them enough to partner with them in their affiliate program. If you use the link below to sign-up, Radical Mentoring gets a small percentage . . . just another way you can “pay it forward” to other mentors and churches.
The SAST was developed in cooperation with hospitals, treatment programs, private therapists, and community groups to provides a profile of responses that help to discriminate between addictive and non-addictive sexual behavior. Take the test and be prepared to discuss your results and develop a plan based on your results.
Lastly, if you (or someone in your mentoring group) needs help beyond the basic resources and strategies, it’s time to take a next step. But first, know two things: 1) you aren’t alone and 2) you can beat this.
So what’s the next step? Reach out to our friends at BraveHearts. At Radical Mentoring, we focus on generalized life mentoring. BraveHearts focuses on specialized mentoring . . . on helping strugglers break free from habitual sexual sin.
They have a wide variety of faith-based, mentoring-centric solutions that will help you establish and maintain lasting freedom from habitual sexual sin, including . . .
As Radical Mentoring’s Women’s Mentoring & Administrative Coordinator, Kristen Brady handles all things admin and events and is the point-person on women’s mentoring. If you can’t get Kevin Harris to respond to an email, try sending it to Kristen!
Her passion for mentoring stems from a belief in the life change that occurs when people sit toe-to-toe and share their stories, letting others know who they really are and encouraging them to do the same.
Before joining the Radical Mentoring team, Kristen served in leadership roles at Lighthouse Family Retreat, The reThink Group, and on church staff.
Born and raised in Dunwoody, GA, she is married to her husband of 24 years, Bruce, and is Mom to Tucker, Claire, Jack, Ellie. In the Brady house, family dinners are a priority, which usually leads to a lot of laughter. When not laughing with her crazy crew, Kristen enjoys talking with friends and running through her South Forsyth community, where she does her best thinking and dreaming.
Jay Mowchenko has spoken and taught in a variety of settings, including numerous pastoral leadership roles, most recently as Lead Pastor of Weyburn Free Methodist Church. His passion for developing people led him to start Shalom Leadership, a consulting/coaching business focused on multiplying life-giving leaders. He’s led five Radical Mentoring groups, having personally invested in 30 men and indirectly, in their marriages and families. He’s also Radical Mentoring’s point person in Canada, guiding churches and leaders on how to launch small group mentoring programs.
Jay and his wife Marilou have two adult children, Keisha and Joshua. When he’s relaxing and having fun, Jay loves staying physically active, as well as reading fantasy and sci-fi novels and playing board games.
As President of Radical Mentoring, Kevin Harris sets the vision and strategy. He also serves as an evangelist to new audiences and an invaluable resource to churches who have incorporated small group mentoring into their disciple-making strategy.
As a part of Regi Campbell’s 2nd Radical Mentoring group in 2002, Kevin experienced a radical change as a husband, father, and Jesus-follower, leading him to craft the purpose statement that has guided him since . . . “I exist to glorify God by helping others unlock and apply their God-given talents and strengths.”
Kevin grew up in Durham, NC and attended Furman University before moving to Atlanta. Before joining Radical Mentoring, he led a sales team at Wells Real Estate Funds and served in sales positions at CNL and Atlas Energy. He and his wife Susan have two boys, Thomas and Bo. Kevin enjoys coaching his sons, cooking a good meal, reading a good book, and watching a good game.
Trey Brush exists to glorify God by coaching, serving, and encouraging others to live up to their leadership potential, in life, and as Jesus-followers.
As Radical Mentoring’s Manager of Church Relationships, Trey Brush is on the frontlines of interacting and working with the hundreds of churches exploring the small group mentoring or in the process of launching.
Originally from the Atlanta area, Trey was raised in the shadow of Stone Mountain. Before joining Radical Mentoring in 2017, Trey was the Events Manager for Connect Ministries and a part of the Leadercast team at Giant Impact. He is passionate about the local church, specifically about the impact churches can have on the local community when their men are fully engaged.
When not working or hanging out with his wife and family, you will probably find Trey out on the roads running. Trey, his wife, and their two boys currently live in Jefferson, GA.
As Radical Mentoring’s Media & Marketing Manager, Jackson Beetler develops or works with our team and creative partners to develop much of what you see from Radical Mentoring . . . website, emails, blogs, social media, mentoring content, you name it!
Jackson began working for Radical Mentoring in 2014 after graduating from the University of Georgia. Originally from Marietta, GA, he currently lives in Atlanta, GA. When not operating as Radical Mentoring’s digital wizard, you’ll probably find Jackson watching a movie, cooking a meal, or enjoying time with his family and friends, preferably over a cup of coffee (but don’t ask him to go to Starbucks!)
Regi Campbell was an entrepreneur, author, and mentor. He was involved in founding 15 companies and served as CEO four times. He wrote four books: About My Father’s Business, Mentor Like Jesus, What Radical Husbands Do, and Radical Wisdom.
But Regi’s passion and calling was mentoring younger men to become all-in Jesus-followers. Through his 19 mentoring groups, he personally invested in 155 men and indirectly, in their marriages and families. The success of his mentoring groups led Regi to found Radical Mentoring to equip and engage men and their churches in launching intentional men’s small group mentoring. Through the investments of those churches and mentors, over 11,000 men have been mentored.
Regi was married to Miriam for 50 years. Their two adult children are happily married (with five grandkids between them) and live only a couple of hours away. Regi went home to be his Heavenly Father on January 24, 2020.